So in essence her behavior is showing her condescending defect is way more important then finding my daughter. Isn’t that sad? Maybe my daughter broke her ties with us because of these conflicts with my sister and her better then thou attitudes. Can someone tell me your thoughts on this Please. Because she seems to forget we come from a very poor family. A humble one.
Now that I have the opportunity again thanks to someone liking my answer above I have another one to add.On a youtube video I just so happened to see a look alike of my 41 year old daughter in the locked in the backseat of a police car with a police officer. In the same area where her cousin lives so I thought maybe my daughter stopped by to see Brody her cousins new born baby. So when I told my sister to view the video because it looks like my daughter. Right away she said no it’s not her because she lives in Los Angeles and were in San Diego. I said she has a car and maybe she drove to San Diego to see her cousins new baby. My sister said OH DON’T DRAG MY DAUGHTER INTO THIS. Now that was condesending because she doesn’t want her perfect daughter to look like she has something to do with the police getting locked in the backseat. First of all she was acting like a fight was going on. Second of all my daughter and her daughter with the newborn baby are cousins and best friends at the same time. This was condesending to the max.
Here’s a good example of my sister being condescending. My 41 year old daughter is missing and my sister made a missing persons report on her. I found my daughter on a video in Downtown Los Angeles titled something to the effect of take a wild walk with me on Figueroa Street. That’s where prostitutes work. I asked her if she saw it and she said no. But I know why because I know she has always thought she is a goody goody. This means she considers those videos dirty and of course she won’t watch those type of videos. I wasted my time sending her the link. So I answered her back after I made it a 5 second video for the detective. I told her it’s not a video of my daughter sitting on the first pew at church with her hands folded on her lap but the detective needs to know she has been seen recently. The detectives don’t have double vision.
Hi everybody! I have been looking at posts on narcs and narc abuse on here and if has really helped me out a lot. I am currently struggling with my situation and need some advice/support.
I met a narc last year, everything seemed to good to be true. Love bombing, always texting calling and taking me on dates. Everything changed when someone warned me about him out in public in front of him and who he is. This caused a conflict with us and the love bombing seized.
he would tell me that everything is okay and i can come and talk. He would set a time limit on me and kick me out after that.
he would then text me like everything was fine and we hung out again and after that he completely ghosted me for one week. He came back and texted me a week later laughing about the ghosting and acting like nothing had happened.
he continued to text me ( not like in the beginning) make plans with me, then on the day of the plans he would just ghost me. One day he would act interested the next silence.
i contacted him a month later and he acted like nothing happened. He was on a vacation and sent me a picture of another woman ( someone he allegedly met on the trip) to strike a reaction but i never gave him one. After the trip he came to my place and was extremely rude, accusing me of going on dates with a bunch of men. The next day he accused me of being an alcoholic and that he wanted nothing to do with me but said well maybe we can be "friends" then ghosted me
i assumed at this point it was over and i would never hear from him again. He contacted me on the holiday a month later acting like everything was great. We ended up hanging out a month or so later and when we hung out it went well, i thought things were going in the right direction.
after we hung out.. silence. I would try to text him and if he replied it would be very short then he just stopped replying. He ghosted me for almost three months. I thought he was done this time and of course he popped up again like nothing happened. At this point i was getting sick of if so i questioned him as to why he dissapeared and always does this. Of course he had some sob story about a injury and family member dying of cancer. I felt pity for him and he gave me an apology.. so i took him back stupidly.
things seemed to be going smooth for a couple months, of course until his family member died and his injury got better he never contacted me and was distant. Menawhile, i was there for him during the difficult time for him. He lied to me about the funeral and never wanted to chat. I was chasing him and he would always claim nothing was wrong but when i said i thought he used me when he was down he could not handle it and would always tell me he didnt care and to go away. I would get so upset i would try texting him to work it out he would barelt respond and if he did he would not be nice about it.
we did hang out a couple times after that, he would ignore me after. One day i was like hey i think you are seeing someone else, and i was like well ixam seeing someone so no problem if you are he said " buy bye good luck with your new guy stop contacting me" i was devastated and tried to get into contact with him for weeks then i just gave up and accepted it was over. He ended up contacting me a month later acting like everything was fine. He wanted to go out and have drinks i told him i would. He and i both seemed to have a great time. He ends up ignoring me again. I kept texting him trying to figure out what was wrong. He kept saying everything was fine and i said ok can we hang out again? He said maybe i was like why? He just kept saying maybe …
our last conversation we had… i said what is wrong ? He said nothing is wrong everything is fine. I asked him why he keeps saying maybe. He said " maybe but i dont want to see you right now" i said why? He saix " im just not feeling it, if i wanted to date i would" i said why did you contact me less then a week ago wanting to go out? He said i didnt.. even though he did. So i said should i just move on or what? He said whatever you want to do. So i said that he was really confusing me and asked him if he had anything more to say before i move on? My messages were turning green so i panicked he blocked me and reacted irrationally. I said " omg did you block me? My messages are not going through. Even texted him on my work phone asking what was up. And called him twice ( please dont judge me i know it is pathetic i never was this type of girl before him) so he replied and said " Ok I'll block you now" then immedietly blocked me. He has never blocked me before since I have met him he will just ghost. Is this ths final discard aka " grand finale? Did i just push him too far?
this has upset me so much its hard to even function.
